So
Halburn, in his crusade to be declared mentally fit to be a father, has
latched onto loads of other mysogynistic, sketchy losers who have lost
custody of their kids too. One of the latest guys has written a Facebook post
that Halburn lifted verbatim and placed on his blog. But that's not the
point this time.
Here's the kicker. In his zeal to smear his second ex-wife, Halburn apparently is too fucking stupid to realize that EVERY SINGLE THING this guy is writing about fits HIM to a T.
Have a read.
Here's the kicker. In his zeal to smear his second ex-wife, Halburn apparently is too fucking stupid to realize that EVERY SINGLE THING this guy is writing about fits HIM to a T.
Have a read.
The Mental Health of an Alienator
David Shubert
We all have someone in our lives that has caused us undue stress and discomfort at times but, when it goes beyond this point, it is nothing short of unbridled evil…or so we think. There are many reasons that people go to extreme lengths in the effort to injure others emotionally but, the actual reasons may escape us. What causes these actions are many times as much a mystery, as the people behind them.
When we put a label on someone with specific behavioral disorders, it’s important that we educate ourselves in knowing what the various causes are and how they apply to each individual. It is for this reason that we must examine some of the more common types of disorders associated with parental alienation and abduction so as not to confuse them.
In an effort to find out what some of the possibilities are that trigger such behaviors, we must first start by trying to understand the psyche of these individuals. In doing so, we may be able to better understand who and what we are dealing with. We’ll begin with the more common mental health issues that tend to surround people involved in the area of parental abduction and alienation.
The first one is NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This is one that most people commonly use to describe their former spouse or partner after the breakup of their relationship. These individuals have an overwhelming need for admiration, is totally consumed with self-gratification, and is completely lacking in empathy for others. It is by far, the most common and destructive personality disorder.
Further, they often have high self-esteem and may believe they are superior or special compared to other people. However, they seem to need excessive praise and admiration, and they may react poorly to perceived criticism. Narcissists also tend to exaggerate their own talents and accomplishments, while downplaying those of others. They are usually preoccupied by power, success, and beauty.
Next, we’ll examine Borderline Personality, also known as BPD. This is a condition that affects an individual’s ability to maintain a normal functioning relationship with other people. BPD and parental alienation behavior are similar because, borderline parents often alienate their children against the other parent prior to the dissolution of their relationship.
People with borderline personality disorder are usually very impulsive and suffer from turbulent emotions and exhibit unstable behaviors that persist for long periods of time. These people also show signs of impulsive behaviors that result in the difficulty of interaction with others in their life. This can range from home, work, friends, among family members and in personal relationships.
Now, comes the sociopath and this is a personality disorder characterized by a flagrant disregard for the rights and needs of others. In terms of Parent Alienation and the family environment it typically begins with an instigating parent who engages in causing a child to be alienated from a targeted parent and is therefore engaging in psychopathic behavior.
Much of the time this behavior is actually a severe manifestation of a larger disorder, it can be difficult to detect until you become familiar with the individual's behavior patterns. Sociopaths are extremely manipulative and can come off as being grandiose and charming early during a relationship. Not surprisingly a great number of people will fall for the delusional fairy tales and lies spun by the people.
After learning that not everyone suffers from the same disorder, we can now look at what the characteristics of an obsessed alienator and see if they fit into the patterns of your former spouse. Each of the above mentioned may suffer from some, if not all of the list below.
• These people are obsessed with destroying the children's relationship with the targeted parent.
• They were successful in combining the children's personalities and beliefs about the other parent with their own.
• The children will imitate the obsessed alienator instead of expressing their own feelings from personal experience with regards to the other parent.
• Their beliefs sometimes become delusional and irrational. Nobody, not even the court, can convince obsessed alienators that they are wrong. Anyone who tries is the enemy.
• They will often seek support from family members and friends that will share in their beliefs that they are the victims of the other parent and the system.
• Their anger has no boundaries because they believe that the targeted parent has victimized them and whatever they do is justified.
• They have a desire for the court to punish the other parent with court orders that would interfere or block the targeted parent from seeing the children.
• The court's authority does not intimidate them.
Though there are other types of underlying mental disorders not mentioned here, these are just a few that we can examine and decide if they fit into your individual situation. Remember, only the assistance of a qualified mental health professional can accurately pinpoint what your former partner or spouse suffers from but, this at least gives you an idea of some possibilities.
Nov 22 Update:
So Halburn writes today:
"Word is my trash blogger critic is whining because we are printing David Shubert columns. Don't worry, we have permission! The trash blogger needs a life AND a clue!"
It strains credulity that he thinks that the reason that post was made was to point out that he printed the whole thing on his blog.
The point was and is to demonstrate how he fails to recognize that everything that guy wrote describes HIM perfectly.
He's playing that sympathy card for his audience of flying monkeys.
Maybe they believe him.
We know better.
David Shubert
We all have someone in our lives that has caused us undue stress and discomfort at times but, when it goes beyond this point, it is nothing short of unbridled evil…or so we think. There are many reasons that people go to extreme lengths in the effort to injure others emotionally but, the actual reasons may escape us. What causes these actions are many times as much a mystery, as the people behind them.
When we put a label on someone with specific behavioral disorders, it’s important that we educate ourselves in knowing what the various causes are and how they apply to each individual. It is for this reason that we must examine some of the more common types of disorders associated with parental alienation and abduction so as not to confuse them.
In an effort to find out what some of the possibilities are that trigger such behaviors, we must first start by trying to understand the psyche of these individuals. In doing so, we may be able to better understand who and what we are dealing with. We’ll begin with the more common mental health issues that tend to surround people involved in the area of parental abduction and alienation.
The first one is NPD or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This is one that most people commonly use to describe their former spouse or partner after the breakup of their relationship. These individuals have an overwhelming need for admiration, is totally consumed with self-gratification, and is completely lacking in empathy for others. It is by far, the most common and destructive personality disorder.
Further, they often have high self-esteem and may believe they are superior or special compared to other people. However, they seem to need excessive praise and admiration, and they may react poorly to perceived criticism. Narcissists also tend to exaggerate their own talents and accomplishments, while downplaying those of others. They are usually preoccupied by power, success, and beauty.
Next, we’ll examine Borderline Personality, also known as BPD. This is a condition that affects an individual’s ability to maintain a normal functioning relationship with other people. BPD and parental alienation behavior are similar because, borderline parents often alienate their children against the other parent prior to the dissolution of their relationship.
People with borderline personality disorder are usually very impulsive and suffer from turbulent emotions and exhibit unstable behaviors that persist for long periods of time. These people also show signs of impulsive behaviors that result in the difficulty of interaction with others in their life. This can range from home, work, friends, among family members and in personal relationships.
Now, comes the sociopath and this is a personality disorder characterized by a flagrant disregard for the rights and needs of others. In terms of Parent Alienation and the family environment it typically begins with an instigating parent who engages in causing a child to be alienated from a targeted parent and is therefore engaging in psychopathic behavior.
Much of the time this behavior is actually a severe manifestation of a larger disorder, it can be difficult to detect until you become familiar with the individual's behavior patterns. Sociopaths are extremely manipulative and can come off as being grandiose and charming early during a relationship. Not surprisingly a great number of people will fall for the delusional fairy tales and lies spun by the people.
After learning that not everyone suffers from the same disorder, we can now look at what the characteristics of an obsessed alienator and see if they fit into the patterns of your former spouse. Each of the above mentioned may suffer from some, if not all of the list below.
• These people are obsessed with destroying the children's relationship with the targeted parent.
• They were successful in combining the children's personalities and beliefs about the other parent with their own.
• The children will imitate the obsessed alienator instead of expressing their own feelings from personal experience with regards to the other parent.
• Their beliefs sometimes become delusional and irrational. Nobody, not even the court, can convince obsessed alienators that they are wrong. Anyone who tries is the enemy.
• They will often seek support from family members and friends that will share in their beliefs that they are the victims of the other parent and the system.
• Their anger has no boundaries because they believe that the targeted parent has victimized them and whatever they do is justified.
• They have a desire for the court to punish the other parent with court orders that would interfere or block the targeted parent from seeing the children.
• The court's authority does not intimidate them.
Though there are other types of underlying mental disorders not mentioned here, these are just a few that we can examine and decide if they fit into your individual situation. Remember, only the assistance of a qualified mental health professional can accurately pinpoint what your former partner or spouse suffers from but, this at least gives you an idea of some possibilities.
Nov 22 Update:
So Halburn writes today:
"Word is my trash blogger critic is whining because we are printing David Shubert columns. Don't worry, we have permission! The trash blogger needs a life AND a clue!"
It strains credulity that he thinks that the reason that post was made was to point out that he printed the whole thing on his blog.
The point was and is to demonstrate how he fails to recognize that everything that guy wrote describes HIM perfectly.
He's playing that sympathy card for his audience of flying monkeys.
Maybe they believe him.
We know better.
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